Sunday Surkhi-late

Sometimes one gets busy for no special reason but sometimes for very good reason.
I am late for the later here.
Daughter of a very good friend of mine was getting married. I reminded her father that I had attended his graduation of college degree.
I was asked to give a nasiha (advice) in one sentence, so I told the groom
"Listen to your wife and lookafter her"
Hearing is different from listening as you might already know. Understanding the proposed meanings of the words spoken sometimes can be very different from those intended by the speaker. The real purpose of listening is to recieve the message being conveyed by the speaker in its pure form. Mis-inderstandings are the basis of many disputes, quarrels, rows, altercations etc. and I have seen disasterous results in some families. In Muslim 'wedding ceremonies" some sermon is a must (Khutba) which includes that part of aya from sura 33rd".... and always say a word directed to the right"
In"Bridge" (a game of cards) there is a position called "Vulnerable" and it is very interesting that simple words can acquire so many different 'meanings' depending upon the state you are in or on the type of relationship you have with the speaker. That is whatI call vulnerability. This is not what sometimes you take the sentence "out of context" where there is "different meaning"
Therefore listening and understanding is of paramount value in a spousal relationship.
Having said that, I am reminded of the fact that the same is true in other family relationships also. So, please be careful with your words that you listen and those that you utter. May God bless you with happiness.