Gupshup is the most easily available, highly entertaining, costs nothing (usually), but there is one requirement , the most critical one:
You have to have friends with similar habits.
Now living in the West this last part can be a real problem. Many reasons. Such as:
As age advances your children leave to their destinations though some may continue to live with you.
Grandchildren have their demands that you must consider more seriously (you love them)
You retire and so many contacts wither away, people you worked with and saw them daily (nothing extraordinary)
Way of life in the West is 'individualistic" So unlike say back home there are no neighbors to talk to or just go out and talk to anybody on the road or on a shop or just go someone's home etc. etc.
These occasions are for "gupshup" also Gupshup needs no topic for discussion or may have many topics in no orderly sequence (does'nt have to be)
So if now (with many other restrictions) you find an opportunity for gupshup with old friends you struggle to go for it and one such struggle was my personal holiday where we had had to spend money for this 'mulaqat (Fly from Raleigh to LA) and gupshup and was considered well worth it But only I or my friends understand this as such, so I considered it as my "personal holiday" because in a retired group of persons holiday does not have much meaning. This is 2013 get together in LA
You have to have friends with similar habits.
Now living in the West this last part can be a real problem. Many reasons. Such as:
As age advances your children leave to their destinations though some may continue to live with you.
Grandchildren have their demands that you must consider more seriously (you love them)
You retire and so many contacts wither away, people you worked with and saw them daily (nothing extraordinary)
Way of life in the West is 'individualistic" So unlike say back home there are no neighbors to talk to or just go out and talk to anybody on the road or on a shop or just go someone's home etc. etc.
These occasions are for "gupshup" also Gupshup needs no topic for discussion or may have many topics in no orderly sequence (does'nt have to be)
So if now (with many other restrictions) you find an opportunity for gupshup with old friends you struggle to go for it and one such struggle was my personal holiday where we had had to spend money for this 'mulaqat (Fly from Raleigh to LA) and gupshup and was considered well worth it But only I or my friends understand this as such, so I considered it as my "personal holiday" because in a retired group of persons holiday does not have much meaning. This is 2013 get together in LA
Now today is almost another 10 years later, marking our 70 years of friendship and
all still kicking except Bhutta in our own places not quite capable of flying or travelling
I got a picture of our somewhat demented oldman Zulfi. I am reminded of picture of 5 of us from
B-batch and other picture of our 11/8/56 picknic where of cource Asif (from A-batch, is also seen. Whenever we visited Gujranwala we always had a sumptuous meal at Asif's place and last time we were there together Frooki starts, "shall we consider Asif to be included in our group?" That was always a joke about Asif that he was 'reluctantly' included in our group. Anyway so we decided to include him in our group (Zesting) While taking away Asif said something and Frooki says Shall we reconsider our decision (to include Asif in our group)
But then there is a whole story about A-batch and B-batch to understand the meanings of A and B batch
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