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Sunday, November 22, 2009

Sunday Surkhi-Divorce "celebration"

Headings of main news are not very attractive these days (except Palin & her book) so I hit another side-news
Divorce being "celebrated with a "Divorce Cake" cutting. Allkinds of imaginary (Free at last or bride with a knife on the back of the outgoing husband etc.) being expressed for such Cakes.
However, it reminds me of divorce in Islam.
Sura Baqara, for instance---"Divorce is permissible twice; after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or SEPARATE WITH KINDNESS......" (Verse 229)
"When ye divorce women and they fulfil the term (Iddah) Either take them back on equitable terms; OR
SET THEM FREE ON EQUITABLE TERMS...." (V.231 )
"There is no blame on you if ye divorce women before consummation or the fixation of their dower; But BESTOW ON THEM (A SUITABLE GIFT) .........." (V. 236)
"For divorced women maintenance should be provided on a reasonable scale. This is a DUTY on the righteous." ( V.241)
In other words the teaching tells us we should part without bickering and fighting that is so common (I know we have terrible things that caused us to divorce and this and that, all very understandable)
AND THAT THE WOMAN SHOULD BE GIVEN A PARTING (and befitting, according to what he can afford) GIFT BY THE MAN
That is the way I see it. Tell me if my understanding is wrong.